First you have to look like
somebody she wants to talk with.
– Date Young Women
The two major pillars of the Steel Balls Program: (1) You must look like someone she wants to talk with. (2) Females choose which male they want. You look like what she wants.
We see a room full of women and want them all. They see a room full of men and want only successful guys. How does she decide who is who? By the way you’re dressed for a start!
This is from Body Language Secrets.
- Women form 90 percent of their opinion about you in the first 90 seconds.
- Nonverbal communication is eye contact, posture, gestures, and the attire of the speaker. The most significant fact—nonverbal signals have five times more impact than verbal signals.
Women are interested in attracting men so they wear what appeals to us! That doesn’t seem irrational at all, does it? So, let’s wear what appeals to them!
Because of women’s different brains and brain wiring, they are able to notice everything about you in a single glance. You are judged instantly. They see all of you, shoeshine to haircut in a flash. There’s no second chance to make that first impression!
Females of all ages are enticed by symmetry, harmony and coordination. They are drawn to a man who looks like he has his shit together! His overall appearance is balanced. Things go together, fit together. Even the knot in your tie is symmetrical after you read DFSWW.
One T-babe used a visual to make the point about why men improve their chances immediately by dressing for success. She used two identical boxes. One wrapped in shiny bright paper with a ribbon and bow. The other wrapped in brown wrapping paper with clothesline rope for a ribbon.
She held them up and said, “Which package do I want to unwrap first?” They all pointed to the nicely wrapped one. She said, “Unwrapping is fun. I like “unwrapping” a well dressed man!” She let that soak for a few seconds . . . Want your “package” unwrapped? . . . SMILE and laughter. Point made!
Women Love a Man in a Suit
When most women are asked what outfit makes a man the most attractive it’s always a suit. The same color and same fabric top to bottom makes you symmetrical, harmonious and balanced, automatically!
You can dress like this after reading DFSWW! You will know why the colors for your first few suits are only dark gray and dark blue. You won’t by any suit with any pattern except very subtle pin stripes. Your socks, shoes, belt, watch, wallet, shirts, ties and pocket squares will be coordinated and harmonious the way women love!
Shoes Are Number Two
From across the room women take in your overall image, then zoom in on your shoes. Brown shoes are forbidden for obvious reasons. What do you think women have to say about the doof in the middle of the picture below?
These rules cover the power suit, date suit, and every other outfit you ever put on. As stated, these are cast in concrete! They ensure women do not dismiss you before you open your mouth.
FIRST RULE: One pattern only
SECOND RULE: Two colors only
THIRD RULE: One layer only
Anything other than black, white, gray and sometimes beige, is a color. Top: blues, greens, purples, reds, black, gray, white. Bottom: black, gray, white, denim blues, putty, pale beige.
Begin with a dark bottom and light top until you find out what colors you get the most compliments wearing. Black and dark gray bottoms are best to start with.
If the get together is Saturday morning, polo shirt, sport shirt or a Henley. No matter which you choose, do not wear a t-shirt under it! The top two buttons are not fastened on any shirt you wear. Not one. Not three. Two!
The biggest mistake is wearing something under a sweater! Don’t wear a t-shirt, dress shirt, shirt and tie or the ultimate fashion statement another sweater! You look like a little boy or a high school preppy!
There are hundreds of things repulsive to women. DFSWW covers them with photos. Here is long, long list without photos of things you should Never Be Caught Dead Wearing.
Absolute No No’s
T-babe Sunny and I were talking about this topic. I said how can I explain too tight? She said, “If I can see your nipples it’s too tight.” I said “What about . . .” She interrupted, “If they are too stupid to know when their pants are too tight, they don’t deserve a date!”
We begin with the most important: Anything too small or too large. Tight anything. Baggy anything. Avoid the rest of these the way you avoid fat, angry ball busters:
Matching track suit, two-tone shoes including golf shoes, aloha shirts, any hat or cap, long boxer underwear, any undershirt, Bermuda shorts, Speedo trunks, patent leather shoes, high heels, plaid or patterned pants, loud ties, white suits, pastel suits or colored suits, cowboy boots, tank tops, muscle shirts, bedroom slippers, crocs, Beatle boots, desert boots, wallabies, top siders, hush puppies, pajamas, jump suits, suspenders, pants-pocket handkerchiefs, shawl sweaters, cardigan sweaters, sleeveless sweaters, sweater vests, cinch belts, white sneakers, white socks, white underwear, corduroy anything.
DFSWW covers business suits, date suits, casual date attire, sports dates, outerwear for spring, fall and winter. The accessories you wear with various outfits are shown and explained.
The essence of Dressing for Success with Women is tasteful not trendy and classic, not classy.
How you look to her once you’re dressed the way she likes depends on your posture, sitting, standing and walking. That’s all covered in Body Language Secrets.