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Meet Dream Girl

No girl wants to be second fiddle.
– THE AUTHOR’S MOTHER

Firm HandshakeThe female chooses from among all males courting her which one gets to mount and penetrate. The steps are the same for all animals. Homo sapiens females are animals. They follow the Homo sapiens courtship system, step by step by step. It’s hard wired in their female brains!

Use body language to determine which ones are interested. Send green lights to get green lights. Walk like a man, shake like a man, introduce yourself. Talk briefly and leave with your mystery intact. Come back later. “We should try that sometime.” Exchange numbers. Leave before the inquisition begins.

Meeting her is no different from meeting anybody. You introduce yourself, someone introduces you or she introduces herself. You have nearly all the skills and resources right now. But that’s after, only after, you understand what she’s afraid of.

Let’s just get this into your head and heart, all women are worried about their physical safety. She must judge you as safe before anything takes place.

Many have been in long, painful relationships with liars, losers, users and players. All women are extremely suspicious of any guy who approaches them.

Female evolution, biology and psychology make it mandatory to know: Is she interested in me? Why? Women choose. That is THE fundamental fact of courtship: Determine her interest before you walk over there.

The ultimate failure is approaching a woman who is not interested and getting dismissed. That alone is ultra destructive. Fatal news, it destroys your chances with every other female who sees it or hears about it.

Golden Hand Shakes

The woman’s handshake is the most reliable indicator of what your chances are. That’s where the undeniable truth is. When you touch her hand and she touches yours there is an electrical-chemical reaction in your body and in your stomach. It’s the same for her. Adjust your courtship from here accordingly.

Ten Commandments of Meeting

Read these commandments slowly. Think about all the implications of each one. These are not like the Eleven Commandments of Courtship. You can’t break even one of these.

  1. Thou shalt not look at her tits or ass
  2. Thou shalt not mention the ex or children
  3. Thou shalt not look at other females
  4. Thou shalt not talk over or down to her
  5. Thou shalt not be slick and smooth
  6. Thou shalt not be negative or cynical
  7. Thou shalt not mention sex
  8. Thou shalt not ask about boyfriends
  9. Thou shalt not touch, except to shake hands
  10. Thou shalt not indicate a standing interest.

Green Lights Mean Go!

Get this fact, if you get nothing else. Women choose, you don’t. When she sends these signals you have been chosen!

SIDELONG GLANCE(S)
LOOKS AT YOU A FEW TIMES
HOLDS YOUR GAZE BRIEFLY THEN
DOWNCASTS HER EYES AND LOOKS AWAY

When you catch her looking your way hold her gaze, if she looks down before looking away she’s interested! This is a reliable and universal signal from Tierra Del Fuego Indians to peasants in the remote villages in Tibet. The same signal is given by desirable women everywhere in America.

By looking down before looking away she’s saying, “I submit to your male dominance. I won’t hurt you if you come over here and say hello.” She does this only the first time your eyes lock.

For the courtship to continue you must nonverbally acknowledge that she has chosen you! Send her a green light or two or three! These are the next signals in the courtship sequence. Do this to let her know you like being chosen and you are interested in her:

POSTURE CHANGES TO ALERT
PREENS, ADJUSTS HAIR, ATTIRE
TURN BODY TOWARD HER

All that means is stand up straighter, check your tie is just so. Shortly after that slowly turn to face her fully. Then look away but keep the front of your body facing her. Do it!

Check back by looking at her now and then. When she reciprocates with similar postures or even the next ones on the list. That’s it! Get your ass over there and introduce yourself.

Most guys don’t go over and say, “Hi, I’m Don Steele.” They wait for more green lights. That’s the gigantic mistake men make. Why? They want to be absolutely sure she’s interested! Not kidding.

When a woman sends you signals of interest and you don’t go over and talk with her, she is pissed and humiliated! She feels like she threw herself you! Every woman in the room saw her signal you, saw you reciprocate, then saw you do nothing! THE END!

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