Steel Balls

Time-Tested Dating Principles for Men

Understand Her, Chapter 2

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I describe the unsettled life and troubled times of the typical 20 year old who can become interested in dating a man. When you understand her you only need to know, on average, younger ones are worse in every way, better in none. The older ones are better in every way, worse in none.

Double the general disarray of this 20 year old’s life for a 19 year old. Quadruple it for an 18 year old. If she’s still in high school, multiply by ten.

For each year past 21 her problem is reduced by twenty five percent. A 23 year old living away from home has eliminated two thirds of the 20 year old’s negative situation, if she has no kids. With even one, her problems are twenty times greater than any 18 year old’s.

A couple of years out of high school her old world falls apart. Friends move away or marry and have kids, others stay at college all year. She’s standing with one foot in the teen-age world, the other in the adult world, at 20.

However, a female of 22 retains all the good qualities of being young but has discarded most of the baggage and burdens of youth. With her enlarged sense of self she’s much simpler to deal with, requiring far less time and energy on your part initially and throughout the affair. But, I had to find out for myself about 18 year olds. You will too, probably.

THE TYPICAL 20 YEAR OLD

She lives with a couple of roommates but only recently left home. She’s never lived with her boyfriend. She has a job or is going to college. She has a car. She doesn’t have a drug problem. She may have had an abortion, the odds are 80-20 against it. Her IQ is 110. She gave her first hand job at 15, then gave up her virginity at the Junior Prom. Her best sex was with some guy she picked up one weekend in Palm Springs. He was 26 but never called when she got back to LA like he promised.

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EXCERPT 1 V1 CHAPTER ONE

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You’re interested in, no, that’s way too weak. You’re lusting after young females. Trouble is, you don’t have the slightest idea how to meet, talk with and date them.

Seen many men dating girls 18 to 24 years old? That’s not because the men don’t want to, now is it? Could it be ten million of them read the book quoted below pr atteded a Pick Up Artist’s Bootcamp? The poor saps think all they have to do is walk up and spew one of the author’s “100 Best Opening Lines.”

The first, and really the only thing it takes to pick up girls, is to talk to them. Basically that’s it. You find a chick who turns you on, you stroll right up to her, and you say, ‘That dimple on your left knee is absolutely sensational!’ . . . That’s all there is to it. If you can do that, you can really pick up girls. By the truckloads! ERIC WEBER, How To Pick Up Girls: Featuring Interviews With 25 Beautiful Girls. (Or fill in the name of any PUA and his “course” or “program” or way over priced E book.)

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Backburner Relationships

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This recent study was full of academic jargon and psychobabble, I rewrote it. (If you want to read the original, the url is at the bottom.)

Definition: A backburner is a someone you are not involved with but want to be. You maintain communication by text or email or facebook or even skype. That keeps the possibility of romantic/sexual rolling along. From an evolutionary view it makes a sense. ALL women do this and some men. More in a minute.

A 2007 study found love motivates people to shut down other options. This is consistent with research that suggests people in relationships don’t pay as much attention to others.

With all this as background, Dibble reasoned people in committed relationships would keep fewer people on the backburner. What surprised him was there was no significant difference between the number of backburners kept by people in relationships, and the number kept by single people!

All this study really showed is most people keep some alternatives on the backburner. That’s not a new phenomenon: “In the old days it was called keeping people in your little black book,” Dibble says….

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To Build a Fire

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to-build-a-fire-photoDAY HAD BROKEN cold and gray, exceedingly cold and gray, when the man turned aside from the main Yukon trail and climbed the high earth-bank, where a dim and little-travelled trail led eastward through the fat spruce timberland. It was a steep bank, and he paused for breath at the top, excusing the act to himself by looking at his watch. It was nine o’clock. There was no sun nor hint of sun, though there was not a cloud in the sky. It was a clear day, and yet there seemed an intangible pall over the face of things, a subtle gloom that made the day dark, and that was due to the absence of sun. This fact did not worry the man. He was used to the lack of sun. It had been days since he had seen the sun, and he knew that a few more days must pass before that cheerful orb, due south, would just peep above the sky-line and dip immediately from view.

The man flung a look back along the way he had come. The Yukon lay a mile wide and hidden under three feet of ice. On top of this ice were as many feet of snow. It was all pure white, rolling in gentle undulations where the ice-jams of the freeze-up had formed. North and south, as far as his eye could see, it was unbroken white, save for a dark hair-line that curved and twisted from around the spruce-covered island to the south, and that curved and twisted away into the north, where it disappeared behind another spruce-covered island. This dark hair-line was the trail—the main trail—that led south five hundred miles to the Chilcoot Pass, Dyea, and salt water; and that led north seventy miles to Dawson, and still on to the north a thousand miles to Nulato, and finally to St. Michael on Bering Sea, a thousand miles and half a thousand more….

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David Kendall Interviews R. Don Steele

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Some topics: Why internet dating gurus are frauds, why we humans are put on earth, my time in therapy and with Nathaniel Branden, my starting over at 35, distillation of the Steel Balls Philosophy and world view, why older men and younger women are the best match, changing hair and attire for success with women and life, easy methods of building self esteem, children of divorce, why women don’t want a six-pack or big muscles, politics-abortion-religion-gays-babies, why women TEST you all the time, lasting love, finding and maintaining a caring sharing romantic loving relationship, why women are into relationships and men are into success, workshops described and explained, why workshops are so successful, why love heals all, behaviorism, humanism, Freudianism, why my clients know WTF to do, which books are recommended and much much more.

Download: DavidKendall-Interviews-R.DonSteele.mp3

Men’s Biggest Mistake – Allan Handleman Interview

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This happens to every guy who has ever paid $$$$$$ to a Pick Up Artist(s) and “learns” to seduce any woman any place anytime no matter what he looks like! Not kidding! They all fuck the duck many times before they come to me. You won’t have to. Listen!

Download: Mens-Biggest-Mistake-AllanHandleman-Interview.mp3

Ron Louis, Author of SEXPECTATIONS Interviews Steele

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Origin of DYW, how Steele learned not to go to bars and to stop being ‘so nice’. Why not older women? The Gigantic difference between 20 year old and 24 year olds. Young women keep you in shape, up on current affairs, dancing, smoking weed, staying up all night. The most important thing from the last 25 years to share is be a Man, not a macho man all women want that from 18-68. Why DYW applies to all ages. Don’t act young, dress young, talk, but be up on pop culture so you can discuss. Difference betweeen Steele and others like Ross Jeffries patterns, lines, anchors, NLP in the approach. Steele laughs, (1) Be a man (2) only approach women who are interested in you. (3) Use BLS to ID ones interested. PUA don’t understand men don’t choose! Female mammals choose which male they want, Homo sapiens courtship and mating is a rigid prescribed 200,000 year old system that cannot be overcome with pick up lines and NLP! Provide, protect, impregnate in that order.

Why PUA are able to sell shit. They are offer HOPE to the HOPELESS! Women want a long term commitment that’s why they TEST you endlessly. Only about 10% of young women are interested in older men. You will fuck it up with 1/2 of them! Common mistakes men make not being dressed for success, not giving a manly handshake, must maintain slightly aloof and mildly interested. Never CHASE. Let it Happen. Don’t Make It Happen no matter what age you are or she is. Meet her where she works, parties, must be in front of her 3 to 4 times a week. Men in bars are better at this than than you! You don’t play basketball with Michael Jordan. Don’t go to bars! Women are delusional thinking Mr. Right is in a bar. Your Miss Right is never in a bar she has a life! Where Steele meets young, supermarket cashiers, box girls. I am not interested in older women over 27 just have so much baggage and if they have a baby forget it. You damage the child.

Download: RonLewis-Interviews-R.DonSteele.mp3
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I found one of Don's books on Amazon a few weeks ago, by chance. I looked at his Website and ordered a couple of books. I've always acted as if "the nicer I am, the greater the chance she will take interest in me." Nice, nice nice...I've got "nice" down. In the past few weeks, I've replaced "nice" with Don's teaching: confident and slightly aloof. ...

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