Start out easy.
You can always come on hard.
– BRANDON MEADOWS, Chicago PD
Practice, prepare, greet, talk, compliment, we should do that sometime, leave with her wanting more, a second date! We start out easy because that’s what women want. We start out easy because we have some place to go from here, up! We start out easy because we want every date to be more intense and more romantic. We start out easy so she doesn’t think, “I’ve got him! He’s trying! I’ve got him!”
Let it happen, don’t make it happen. Women are aroused by The Right Attitude: I can take it or leave it.
On a first date you are applying for the job of her boyfriend or lover. The goal of the first date is to have her want a second date! She only wants that if the first date is fun and it feels right, emphasis on “feels right”.
- Be real.
- Be here now.
- Be yourself, the best self you can be.
Do so and you have the best chance to be successful, as in, to her, it feels right.
The worst thing not being here now causes, she realizes you are not here now! She does not know why. All she knows is you are not paying attention to her. She does not feel seen or appreciated or accepted or respected! Toast!
When you’re a nice guy or only friendly or only business-like she’s not interested. She wants emotion! She wants to see and feel your emotions.
At the beginning, during and at the end of this brief date you want to see her giving bright green lights. To get green lights you have to give them. Go first!
The greeting hug/handshake must be as sensual as possible without being sexual. Your voice and overall manner is sensual.
Talk about that great new sushi place you went to last weekend or that funny chick flick you saw. Don’t mention, or look at other women. No whining or complaining about anything.
Compliment something different than at the wedding. Earrings, shoes, purse, watch, ring, necklace, cell phone cover, key ring with charms.
Whatever she reveals “do something with it” and hit it back over. Like this. She says, “My favorite hamburger is Tommy’s. Messy, greasy and to die for.” I say, “I’ve heard about it, never tried it. Maybe we could have lunch there sometime.”
Questions always mean she’s interested. Take the opportunity to answer and make yourself even more interesting and desirable!
Answer the question.
Tell the diplomatic/tactful truth. KISS.
Increase your desirability with the answer!
Hit the ball back! How about you?
Do not lie! Tell the truth. If you lie she’ll know.
She’s the buyer. You are the seller. By ending the date, you exert your power to not sell! Do that with style.
When she has many other choices, aka she’s desirable, be different, very different than all of her other choices. That’s the only way you can be special in her eyes.
Don’t say I’ll call you and we’ll set up that Stuft Pizza get together. Just leave it vague as in, “We’ll touch base in a few days.” Do that after all dates until you’re back from a long weekend in Tahoe or something equally romantic.