Proper planning and practice
prevent piss poor performance.
– MILITARY WISDOM
The second date can’t be a major time commitment. Not a romantic dinner or a trip to the Santa Anita track. It has to sound like fun and be easy to say yes to. Set up something at night during the week with a time limit. Pizza and beer, shooting pool or bowling where there is alcohol.
Do not text for a second date, third date or hundredth date! Review, rehearse and use the Pre-Phone Checklist from Call Dream Girl to the letter.
This call has amenities and a brief discussion of the first get together. Set it up. Get off the phone without being in a rush but get off the phone!
Romance, “just like in the movies” is something every woman wants. By holding hands I mean briefly, across the table and very gently. It’s done gently but assertively not aggressively!
I simply hold her hand gently and smile and maybe talk a bit. My voice is low, sensual and now a bit sexual. Then I let go and continue eating. Why do I let go? Same as with the hug! Whoever says “no” has the power. I am the catch!
All conversation and questions . . . she’s really asking, “Are you capable of a sustained loving caring relationship?” And “Do you have what it takes to be a Man across time? Can I rely on you to provide, protect and impregnate me?”
Depending on her age, you will get versions of “are you normal,” “do you have a future” and sexual availability questions.
The more times you two touch now, less defensive she becomes during this date and in the future.
Women like change. Women like flair. Women like clothes. Women love novelty, that’s why they follow fashion and enjoy being fashionable. She dresses differently on each date. So, you dress differently than at the wedding reception and on the first date.
The distilled sum and substance of every bit of advice, all the methods and the entire, overall strategy is this: be a Man.
A man is courageous. To demonstrate his courage, he makes himself vulnerable when the opportunity presents herself.
A man has a life of his own. He has interests that absorb and enthrall him. Not a bit of it has anything to do with women, nothing to do with work, nothing to do with anything except his own pleasure and enjoyment.
A man is strong. A man is powerful. A man is forthright. A man is not macho. Macho behavior and associated attire and accessories (military anything, lumberjack shirts or boots and trucks for example) are not part of his life.
About an hour into it, before my tank’s full, I say, “I’m gonna go to the men’s room.” Sometimes she will say, “Me too.” If not, give her the polite opening during the date. You don’t want her about to die from holding it back the entire time! Especially when kissing in the parking lot later.
Listen to your inner Yoda. Try not! The memory aid is, “If you’re trying you’re dying.”
The point of this entire chapter is to get you thinking about places to go that make you even more interesting and desirable. To quote my favorite author, “Be different. Different works.”
The first kiss can be a deal breaker but not a deal maker. Men of Steel Balls never “try” for a kiss! We take our cues from her. We have an attitude of, if not tonight, no big deal, it will happen. We kiss her when she non-verbally says, “KISS ME NOW”.
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Warning! Don’t do the silly movie Hitch nonsense of 90 percent and stop. That’s uh, uh, duh, really stupid.
Ten minutes later, glance at your watch, let her finish whatever she’s saying, notice her body language as you stand up.
“Great joke about the blonde with the Colt 45. I never saw that punch line coming!” Step back and turn slightly toward the door and wait.
As you’re walking, this time you say, “I’ll call you and we’ll set up that whatever you semi set up. If there was nothing, simply say, “We’ll talk in a few days and touch base.”
When you do kiss her the first time, you are gentle, loving, sweet, romantic and brief! Stop kissing her before she stops kissing you! The first time and maybe the second time. Just wait.
When you two start, the person who ends it has all the power! Just like the greeting hug! Just like holding hands!
Immediately read Date Young Women. My world famous start-stop technique is explained in detail.
Take your cues from her. If she wants kissed again you will know. We don’t want her in charge, right. So I lean in and kiss her on the lips very briefly and say ummmmm while I’m kissing her. I stop, step back and say, “Nice . . . Sorry! Gotta go. Smile, step back and wait.
Same as first date. Write notes about her, anything you noticed. What she liked or didn’t like food wise, especially any negatives or major positives. Also make notes on movies, music, food, siblings, hometown, funny story, anything and everything. The shortest pencil is better than the longest memory! On the third phone call, she will like it that you were paying attention