You’re interested in, no, that’s way too weak. You’re lusting after young females. Trouble is, you don’t have the slightest idea how to meet, talk with and date them.
Seen many men dating girls 18 to 24 years old? That’s not because the men don’t want to, now is it? Could it be ten million of them read the book quoted below pr atteded a Pick Up Artist’s Bootcamp? The poor saps think all they have to do is walk up and spew one of the author’s “100 Best Opening Lines.”
The first, and really the only thing it takes to pick up girls, is to talk to them. Basically that’s it. You find a chick who turns you on, you stroll right up to her, and you say, ‘That dimple on your left knee is absolutely sensational!’ . . . That’s all there is to it. If you can do that, you can really pick up girls. By the truckloads! ERIC WEBER, How To Pick Up Girls: Featuring Interviews With 25 Beautiful Girls. (Or fill in the name of any PUA and his “course” or “program” or way over priced E book.)
Do you suppose Weber or any Pick Up Artist really believes the only thing it takes “is to talk to them?” Maybe the 25 beautiful girls he interviewed were in his wet dreams? The “dimple” line and his others might work if a Brad Pitt look-alike “strolled right up” and tried it. That’s assuming the “chick” could keep from laughing hysterically, an assumption few men with three-digit IQ’s would make.
NOTE: Since 1987, at least 15 different dating “experts” have ripped off my book! Not kidding! They are even less knowledgeable of what it takes to find, meet, talk and date than Weber! These snake oil salesmen offer “new solutions” such as dress like a doof and act mysterious or be arrogantly funny or NLP manipulation and other such nonsense. They present their “systems” as a quick fix, which is irresistible to most guys, keeping these scammers in business.
Persuasively they say that you get to choose the woman and then sell you a “system” to seduce her! Silly at minimum. Fraud is more likely! Why?
Because men don’t do the choosing! Among all mammals, males compete. The female watches and then she chooses which male to be with. Evolution designed female Homo sapiens to be extremely picky. Her survival depends on choosing a male capable of helping her raise their offspring by providing and protecting. Women don’t choose males who wear a goofy hat or one who babbles about roller coasters and chocolate or one who acts cocky and funny. Anyone who even tries those techniques immediately loses respect for himself!
With me you learn fundamentals of dating that were built into men and women during the 200 million years it took for Homo sapiens to evolve! In this book I explain HOW to find, meet, talk, date and relate. In Volume 2, I explain WHY the Steel Balls Principles work.
This is a how-to book by a man who has done it for his entire adult life! I explain how to make your fantasies come true but right now that’s exactly what they are, fantasies. You are going to learn how white, or raised white, middle class young women think, what’s important to them and what they want from a guy. You’ll know what you have to be and look like to attract her. I explain where to find her, how to meet her, what to say to her, principles of courting, what her real motives are for dating you, how to behave on dates and how to seduce her. I tell you the must do’s as well as the no no’s.
You’re going to know what she has to offer and what you absolutely cannot expect from her. You will end up knowing what it really takes to date a twentyish woman. My experiences are here for you to learn from, good ones, funny ones and horror stories. When done reading you’ll avoid many of the mistakes I made as you learn the complex, delicate rituals and courtship practices insisted upon by young women.
But you have to learn by doing. If you want to break, then ride a horse, a wild young mare, you can’t read a book then sit on the corral fence theorizing about it. You have to climb on and get thrown, again and again. Eventually you’ll realize you must talk gently to her, letting her know you intend no harm, showing no fear while radiating, “I’m in charge here.” When you can do that she’ll let you mount her and won’t buck you off.
There are 14 million young women out there. At this very moment a half a million of them are being courted by men twice their age. Tens of thousands are having affairs with a man right now, loving every minute. So how do you get involved?
You already date women, right? No matter how old she is the steps are the same: find-meet-talk-date. What’s the problem then, you ask?
THE PROBLEM. Clearly stated, you don’t know how to: (1) find her (2) meet her and (3) talk with her. Dating follows naturally if you converse with her correctly, based on the rules of engagement as she understands them. If you are dating and mating you know how to solve this three-part problem. If you are divorced, have only limited experience, or have zero experience, keep reading to the last page. Then get Volume 2.
Find Her. Where do you find women right now? At work, in bars, attending classes, through friends, at parties and sometimes in the most unexpected places, like the post office. You find young women in the same places! No shit, you say. Well, everywhere except bars. Forget them, much more later.
My point is, finding her is not a big part of this problem. You have the primary resource to solve it sitting on top of your neck, your big head, not to be confused with your little head, which often prevents a solution to any part of this problem.
Meet Her. It’s no different from meeting a woman. You introduce yourself, someone introduces you or she introduces herself. You have nearly all the skills and resources right now. This part of the problem is solved with only your big head, some chutzpa and learning a few techniques. But that’s after, only after, you understand her, what she wants from you and what she’s afraid of.
Talk With Her. Look closely at this one. It is made up of two tasks. Task A is delivering an opening line that won’t make her laugh at you or scare her away. For Christ’s sake, don’t use any from How to Pick Up Girls, okay? Task B is sustaining the conversation long enough for her to realize you are (a) safe (b) interesting and (c) attractive.
ESSENCE OF THE PROBLEM. The substance, the essential difference, the core, or, to put it more succinctly, the entire god damned thing comes down to Task B with its four sub-tasks.
Sustained Contact. You have to talk with her for a minimum of four or five minutes. At this point you don’t know much about talking with anyone under 25. You don’t yet have the ability to carry on a conversation she can, like, relate to. You know, like, on her level. Simple, you know, like friendly, relaxed, you know, like, well, totally casual. No, they’re not all airheads. But “casual” is what every last one of them needs to realize you’re not dangerous. She is afraid you might be physically dangerous as well as socially and emotionally dangerous.
Physical Danger. She thinks you could be the Night Stalker’s brother or a dirty old man trying to cop a feel. Being relaxed and friendly makes it possible for her to see you’re safe. You do this with women. Young women just take longer.
But it isn’t how much longer it takes her. The real problem is your lust, your excitement, your impatience, your lack of confidence, your fear of rejection. These combine, causing you to radiate bad vibrations. She picks them up and thinks you could be very dangerous, at which point she says, “Later,” with or without words.
Social Danger. You’ll soon learn how to control yourself and your emotions when talking with her. Then you must figure out how to calm her fear of the threat you pose to her socially. In simple English, you learn how to not be direct or obvious. You have to be casual enough so she doesn’t have to worry her friends, peers, and possibly her boyfriend, will ridicule or reject her if she’s seen talking with you.
The problem is not her fear, it’s you but not your emotions. You haven’t mastered the art of being casual. A young woman’s not only worried about being seen talking with you. She has far more to lose by dating you. With patience, her view of you as socially dangerous can be transformed into the realization you are discreet, subtle and sensitive to her situation.
Emotional Danger. If you are experienced, she thinks you’re so powerful, so knowledgeable, you will be able to sexually use her, then discard her. This is her biggest fear. Although this sounds impossible to overcome, it isn’t. I spend fewer pages on this than the others. Trial and error, mostly error, will teach you what to do.
INTERESTING AND ATTRACTING HER. I don’t mean to be glib but after you know how to deal with her fears you only have to be yourself. Of course you have to look like someone she’d like to talk with but that’s all explained. Then you have to religiously follow the Ten Commandments Of Meeting and the Eleven Commandments Of Courtship. You must also have “Answers To Inevitable Questions” down pat. At that point you only have to get up, dust yourself off and get back on every time you get thrown. Practice, practice, practice.
