No girl wants to be second fiddle.
– THE AUTHOR’S MOTHERsame pix as prev page insert talk-with-her instead
Women want what they have always wanted, a Man with great genes so her baby has the best chance to survive. Mother Nature insists that the female be certain that YOU are a fit father!
By talking with you she is finding out if you are: brave, capable,
worthy, in-charge, healthy, have a life, clever, attractive to other women, a challenge not a pushover, clean, confident and don’t take crap. In short, can YOU provide for her and the children?
Reluctance and testing are built into her genes. Don’t take the tests personally! No testing means, no interest! All questions mean she is interested.
Courtship are the steps are the same for all mammals. We’re mammals! Here are the steps from the time you acknowledged her interest from across the room until you two are naked, sweating and basking in the afterglow of great orgasmic sex.
One: Male aggression
Two: Female reassurance
Three: Male reassurance
Four: Male aggression
Five: Female reassurance
Six: Male aggression
Seven: Female reluctance, resistance or test
Eight: Male reassurance and aggression
Nine: Female reassurance
Ten: Male aggression and reassurance
Eleven: Female reluctance, resistance or test
Twelve: Repeat 8-11 until female submits.
The first conversation is to show her you are a safe, interesting and attractive, someone it would be fun to have an affair with. I say, “Hi! I’m Don Steele, friend of the groom.” She takes it from there!
The longer the first conversation goes past where she decided you are safe and interesting, the less desirable she finds you! Why? Women want mystery! Even more important is the Steel Balls Equation HOPE + DOUBT = DESIRE!
The three basic conversation steps after intro and amenities: Reveal, Listen, Do Something with What She Says. From Body Language Secrets, here are the signs during conversation.
KEEP TALKING
- Alert, energetic
- Pupils dilated
- Gradually opens posture
- Lowers drink
- Touches self gently
- Caresses objects
- Crosses and uncrosses legs
- Flashes of palm
- Crossed legs steady
- Dangles shoe on toe
- Hands never touch face
- Touches you for any reason
- Feet firmly on floor
- Loosens anything
- Leans forward
- Steady hands, feet
MOVE ON
- Tense, restless
- Normal or small pupils
- Posture remains closed
- Keeps drink chest high
- Grips or pinches self
- Squeezes, taps objects
- Legs remain crossed
- Back of hand gestures
- Swings crossed legs
- Keeps shoe on
- Touches face
- Never touches you
- Feet on edges or toes
- Tightens anything
- Leans away
- Tapping, drumming
Talk about anything she is interested in. Not the new tax bill, wars, politics, religion, gay marriage, abortion, or any other controversial subject! Nothing negative, nothing!
You are not cynical. You are not mean in your comments or answers about anything especially other guests. No complaining about anything!
Tossing confetti means exploring what kind of music, cars, clothes, food, restaurants, movies, TV shows you like. You are looking for a fit other than anatomical!
We find out if she’s genuinely interested by waiting until she shows interest in bowling or that new Chinese place. Say, “We should try that sometime, sounds fun.” She’s positive, take out your cell phone and say, “Let me have your number so we can set this up.” Smile. Wait. Punch in her number and dial it. When her cell rings, the five minute countdown begins until you blast out of here, mystery intact.